Thursday, July 5, 2012

Two halves of one whole?

I've been catching up on reading some blogs recently, and found that Magaly talked about a creation myth where humans used to be two headed dragons who shared one heart. But some gods decided to smite the dragons, creating humans who only have half a heart. The result? We have half a heart, someone has the other half of our heart, and we need to find that person.

This reminded me of one of my favorite authors, Juliet Marillier, who talks about lovers being two halves of one whole. The hero and heroine need each other, and aren't complete until they have found each other.

I actually talked to my boyfriend about this recently, so it's funny that I found Magaly's post about it shortly after this topic came up between us. We were talking on Facebook, and Murray said that it was some of the best writing he's seen from me. Hopefully I can replicate that here. :)

Thing is, I don't feel like I'm half of a whole. As romantic as it sounds, and as much as I love that creation myth Magaly shared, I feel like I'm a whole myself. And yet, I feel like I'm a whole that's completed by another whole. Which doesn't entirely make sense, even to me. Maybe it's because Murray and I compliment each other. And no, I don't mean that he tells me I'm beautiful and I tell him he's wonderful. Though we do tell each other those things. :) Rather, even though we are similar in certain ways, we're also different.

Or maybe I'm a whole that needs another whole to lean on...

In any event, it's something that I was already thinking about, and Magaly's post prompted me to write about it. Tomorrow, how we met!


Debra She Who Seeks said...

I think people should recognize that they are whole in themselves too. Seeing one's self as only half a person and needing some other person to "complete and validate" you gives away our power to others and breeds unhealthy dependency in relationships, IMHO.

Sarita Rucker said...

Actually, I don't think it's inheritently unhealthy to see your signifanct other as your "other half." It *can* be bad, but then I've also heard of "soul families" and of souls being reincarnated into multiple people. In those would be accurate to call someone part of your or your "other half."

So while it's true that it can lead to dependency that's unhealthy, I would take it on a case by case basis as to whether it's a bad thing.

...sorry if this is jumbled. I'm still forming my thoughts on the matter and don't know how to articulate them clearly. :)

Toriz said...

Perhaps each half - or piece - of dragon heart moulded itself in such a way that it can function alone, but when the pieces are together it knows and rejoices? Kind of like... To use a simple analogy... Cookies and cocoa. Cookies are great on their own, and so is cocoa, but combine the two and it's even better!

Sarita Rucker said...

Thank you thank you thank you!!! Great analogy.

I actually have met people who might be the cookie to my cocoa. It's a good feeling. Even though I'm usually too shy to talk to them.

Toriz said...

*Nods in agreement* It's a very nice feeling!